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Hi Radiant Friend!
Are you being honest with yourself?
Yesterday I was really in a dark funk! Somebody I knew passed away 1 ½ years ago tragically and I didn’t even know about it. All I can say is that I started to cry and sob. This woman touched so many lives!
The rest of the day I was sad, paralyzed, and scared!
Why? Because I knew this person, danced with her, and felt like the reason I didn’t know was that I was disconnected from my community.
And, disconnection is selfish!
So I started to reflect last night and today if I was being honest with myself about my connection with others and how I show up.
Needless to say, yesterday was a very painful wake-up call! The day was an inventory of all the promises and commitments I had broken with myself. And, what level of game I’m willing to play the rest of my days in human form.
You see, when we are not keeping our word with ourselves our connection with others suffers. It’s almost like we feel so much shame, guilt, and fear that we hide and isolate. Which leads to loneliness as that insidious little voice in our heads gets louder and louder.
Honesty with ourselves leads to courage and calling ourselves out. Which then leads to connection, intimacy, and compassion with ourselves and others.
It’s called welcome to humanity and the perfection of imperfection!
Part of being human is restoring our integrity over and over and over again. But without restoring our integrity with ourselves we become numb to the wonderful human experience, the good, the bad, and the ugly!
To fully embrace life and relationships we must stay connected and in communication.
Truly, that is one of the keys to deep lasting Love and intimacy, “into-me-see.” When we allow people into our world, it makes it safe for them to welcome us into theirs.
Modeling is the quickest way to transform any relationship.
People crave to see, feel, and experience other people’s humanness regardless of what they might say.
Sharing is the surest way to release shame, fear, guilt, and loneliness!
Another lesson in why doing it by ourselves does not work!
If you are committed to:
Release shame, fear, guilt, and loneliness and/or
Increase confidence and self esteem and/or
Learn how to stay connected, and/or
Communicate authentically and successfully in any circumstance, and/or
Model integrity and honesty to attract the same,
Then BE on the teleseminar call promptly Monday September 14th at 8pm EDT!
You can also take immediate action and be proactive with yourself by scheduling a complimentary Relationship Strategy Call with me NOW!
Don’t you want to bring that special someone into your life that exhibits honesty, integrity, and communicates successfully with authenticity and humility (true self confidence!)?
Remember like attracts like!
Call in details:
Dial in number: 712-775-7031
Access code: 502450
Monday September 14th at 8pm EDT
Talk with you Monday or sooner!
Light, Love, & Gratitude,
P.S. This is a crucial call to hear and ask questions! Hear a preview about my interview with Allana Pratt on her “Intimate Conversations LIVE” next Thursday September 17th at 7pm EDT, 4pmPDT! I will make an outrageous offer that you do not want to miss! As part of the interview I will be unveiling my “90 day LIVE Relationship Attraction Boot Camp” to be launched in October 2015! I promise you will be blown away by this exciting program! To learn more and receive a complimentary Relationship Strategy Call book a time with me HERE!
Really dude! Another summit… how many of these do you want me to watch and listen to?
I have a couple answers for this question?
1) Yes, this is the season for Love and sizzling sex and it seems more and more people are crying out for guidance on how to attract it, keep it, and flourish in their relationships;
2) I want you to listen to as many of these totally free summits as it takes to get you out of whatever pain and disappointment you may have about past or present relationships…
…and to experience Deep Lasting Love inspired by unconventional, authentic, fulfilling, trusting relationships with ravishing sex through unbridled self expression that brings more joy and passion into your life with all those you connect with than ever before.
This means when a chance to participate and tell you about an amazing group of authors, teachers, and inspirational transformation experts comes around—I am going to tell you…
…. and with the enthusiasm of somebody winning the lottery!
I want you to be excited and orgasmic too.
How could you not be excited, curious, and inspired by this extraordinary lineup of experts: Allana Pratt, Larry Michel, Carol Allen, Kimberly Seltzer, Eva Clay, Dana Garrison, Kathryn Alice, Mali Apple & Joe Dunn, Reid Mihalko & Monique Darling, Lawrence Lanoff, Laurie Handlers, Mia Saenz, Scott Catamas & Emily Orum, Shasta Townsend, Edie Weinstein, Asttarte Deva Shatki Bliss, Dr. Elsbeth Meuth & Freddy Zentar, Kinky Cassie Fuller, Mare Simone, and Julio Cortes!
How extraordinary would it be to attract and keep partner(s) and/or playmates with deep lasting Love and beyond imaginable ravishing sex?
MIND BLOWING, right?!
But instead of this spectacular loving experience, perhaps this is or has been you….
…or maybe this is someone you know and care about…
This person is lonely, depressed, cynical, disappointed, hurt, intimidated, desperate, apathetic, and resigned when it comes to attracting the partner(s) of their dreams.
Love and trust is lost with no light at the end of the tunnel.
We are screaming at the top of our lungs…. DO NOT SETTLE OR GIVE UP!!! You deserve to share yourself with someone exquisitely special!
There is a recipe for attracting fulfilling and trusting relationships into your life.
You can and will create deep lasting Love, joy, and acceptance with a breathtaking companion and/or playmates of your fantasies.
You can have heart connected, powerful, and scrumptious edgy spiritual sex with each other!
The amazing line-up in the Edgy Love Secrets Revealed Summit are sharing their Edgy Love Secrets to help people across the world bring true Love, sex, compatibility, and fulfillment into their lives.
————> Register now for Edgy Love Secrets Revealed Video Summit Live at www.edgylovesecretsrevealed.com
I will be interviewed along with 24 other experts on this upcoming video summit, Edgy Love Secrets Revealed: Discover How to Create Unconventional, Authentic, Fulfilling, Trusting Relationships with Ravishing Sex through Unbridled Self Expression!
I am blessed to be among many of the top experts on: attracting your dream partner(s), relationship communication, connected edgy sex, tantra, and alternative diverse relationships.
I am excited about this summit because it’s a very special line-up of experts that do not come together often.
This is ALSO NOT your typical Summit. The content is edgy. It will challenge how you to look at a number of things differently than you might do now. Some you will love. Some you might question. Some of the content might seriously push your boundaries.
You will absolutely hear and learn new things, and that is worth the price of admission—which is only your time and your willingness to learn and grow and discover ways to bring more joy and excitement into your life, and keep it there. The dollar cost is zero.
This invigorating, diverse and unique summit will give you the keys to take action and attract and keep the partner(s) of your dreams!
WOW, is that evocative or what?
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Many people have a story about why love and sex doesn’t work in their lives. The fabulous news is this summit is about being empowered to write your own love story with your ideal companion(s). All 25 speakers have been handpicked as the top experts by Dr. Rusty so that you can have the love(s) of your life!
Jump in NOW! There’s nothing to lose and everything to gain! You deserve the best!
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I’m inviting you as my guest to experience this juicy summit for yourself and attract authentic Love and partnership.
Isn’t it time to wake up in the morning, glance over at the most amazing person you have ever experienced and gush with Love and appreciation….
…Only to discover in that same moment they are looking at you and feeling exactly the same way! BREATHE!
IT’S TOTALLY POSSIBLE!
Click here to register for www.edgylovesecretsrevealed.com and bid a final farewell to living without a special companion, best friend, and scorching lover(s)!
Gratitude, Love, and Light,
Dr. Rusty’s Love Shack
Rusty Stewart, Ph.D., ACHt.
We all have people in our lives with whom we share varying degrees of closeness, openness, and connection. Most of us have conversations with our friends, family, and colleagues that involve listening, supporting, and responding to a variety of topics or personal issues. It is through these meaningful encounters that we share our hopes, dreams, aspirations, and fears. We also tend to speak about what is and is not working in our lives. And, we respond in many different ways depending on who the person is and what we stand for. Some of us stand for agreement, some disagreement, others victimhood, some responsibility, many inauthenticity, and yet others mediocrity. This article is about the minority of people that stand for integrity and transformation in themselves and others.
So just what does it mean to stand for people authentically? It means getting out of our own way by trusting ourselves. This means not being concerned about what other people may think when you’re being honest with them in supporting their dreams, greatness, and everyday miracles. Being authentic means communicating the ways we’ve not been genuine and inviting people to share the ways they have been not been honest, which includes having withheld information. This also means cleaning up our relationships and unfinished business. This may mean pointing out potential sensitive blind spots to friends, colleagues or loved ones that are keeping them stuck in mediocrity. It may result in spending less time with people that choose to be victims of their stories and excuses.
Integrity is being true to yourself and your word. If you cannot be true to yourself, how are you ever going to be able to be true to another? Like attracts like. I love the poem “The Invitation” by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. Here’s a partial quote where she shares about authenticity, integrity, and possibility; “It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living, I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human. It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.” Just like it does not serve me for someone to buy into my bullshit, I am not in integrity if I buy into another person’s disempowering story of circumstances, “can’ts”, and victimizations. I want the people who really care about me in my life to hold me accountable for everything I attract. This is true self-responsibility, true self-empowerment, and being in integrity!
When one stands for transformation one is standing for possibility (as the only option), unlimitedness, or to put it another way, living outside their comfort zone. Much of our programming from our past has taught us about what’s impossible, that we’re limited, and that we are to conform to society and only think in ways that support the status quo. This type of thinking is representative of living inside the box. Living outside the box is being open to our blind spots (what other people may know about us that we don’t know) and being curious about what “we don’t know that we don’t know.” New paradigms, or belief systems, are seeded within us and grow in the window of the unknown. This is also where greatness resides. As a coach, public speaker, and leader, I stand for the possibility of our greatness as human beings.
In order for transformation to occur individually and globally people must choose to take a stand for authenticity and completing unfinished business from our past. This means cleaning up any withholds we have with people. It comes down to owning our shit and being brutally honest while at the same time gentle with ourselves and others. When we truly take a stand for ourselves, nothing gets in the way of our purpose. All problems are looked at as opportunities. All failures are interpreted as stepping stones to success. There is no room for stories, excuses, or inauthentic ways of being. It is through our own transformation and courage that we model new and unlimited possibilities for others. We are not served by remaining mediocre, ignoring our blind spots, and keeping our heads in the sand of victimhood, limitedness, and status quo conformity. In order to be our greatness we need to surround ourselves with others who will hold us accountable, be assertively honest, and challenge us to live our word. In short, be in integrity with what we say with our words and actions.
Thus, authentically standing for people and their greatness requires us to take risks and be vulnerable in our sharing and feedback. This may piss some people off or put them on the defensive. The question I have is, do you really care about them? Do you want to support them being mediocre or being in their greatness? What serves their highest good, authenticity and integrity, or inauthenticity and consistently and perhaps unconsciously breaking their word? Who do you authentically stand for? What’s the risk of not authentically standing for people’s excellence? I dare say it may be your own lack integrity and inauthenticity and the ultimate betrayal of your own soul. Once our eyes are open to human beings’ unlimited possibility and greatness, the cat is out of the bag. Our eyes can truly never shut again. We know too much about what we don’t know that we don’t know. Transformation is permanent and empowering. Authentically standing for our and others greatness is the only viable option. Everything else is just a story of victimhood.
Miracles are present all around you! Isn’t that exciting!
How do I know? Because I have been hiding out the last couple of weeks since my solar return March 5th witnessing major breakdowns in my life on a daily basis!
Until, March 16th when I became present to the possibility of miracles showing up in my life with the same frequency as the breakdowns.
And guess what? It works!!!
So I’m back and wanting to share the magic of miracles and how you can have miracles show up for you, especially in relationships.
It’s all about you being present and not allowing your past “knowing” or “certainty” to muddle or tarnish your space of being and new possibility.
Miracles show up when you are able take new action amid you thinking you know how it will turn out. This requires you to have thoughts and emotions, but not BE your thoughts and emotions, since thoughts and emotions are coming from your past.
That is essentially why you keep attracting the same patterns over and over again in life and relationships. You must be uncomfortable and come from a blank slate to create something new and bring magic into your life.
Who wants to create a space where miracles occur regularly?
What tools can you use to help you be present?
What’s holding you back from magic and miracles?
Leave a comment and share your answers or ask any questions you may have with me.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Light & Love,
P.S. Happy Spring!
What if you have a scarcity mindset?
What does that mean? Basically if you are saying these types of things in your life, (I don’t have enough time, enough money, enough love, enough fun…..and it goes on and on), then you have a scarcity mindset.
Over the years I have witnessed countless numbers of people wanting me to help them with relationships and Love. And, most of the ones that end up not hiring me are because they say they can’t afford it.
That is a scarcity mindset that permeates all areas of their lives. If you think you can’t afford to invest in yourself to have a great Love relationship then that’s what’s keeping you stuck not having that relationship.
If you have scarcity in Love it will show up in money, time, freedom, etc., and vice versa.
So, then it should come as no surprise to you that these are all intimacy issues.
People that have a deep profound sense of self Love, self esteem, and genuine self confidence do not have scarcity mindsets and will do what it takes to have what they say they want in their lives even if they don’t know how.
I remember one of my mentors saying to me, “if you have money issues you will have sex and Love issues.” They go hand and hand with scarcity and lack.
It took me a long time to get this principle. Much longer than I want to admit!!!
There was a study done with people that were highly successful in all areas of their lives. They were asked to put a percentage, like 80/20 or 50/50, etc. on how much energy they put into the following two areas when it comes to their success. One is how to do it and the other is intent. The results were mind blowing! All of the successful people said its 100% intent and 0% how to do it!
In other words, they had no idea and did not care how it would happen. Their focus was on intent and action and they trusted that the people, circumstances, and resources would be attracted to them out of pure intent, action, and commitment. WOW!!!
Are you in scarcity and lack because you don’t know how you’re going to make something happen?
Are you scared to make a promise that you have no idea how to keep?
If so you are, then you are playing a very small game in life because intent and action come before the how in manifestation. Everything else is control and being comfortable in the familiar. And that will get you the same results that you say you don’t want (Insanity).
Hit reply and let me know how this email relates to you.
If you knew that intent and action were all it takes to have the sizzling Love life of your dreams and the how was going to show up later wouldn’t you do it?
Well that’s what successful people do……they trust themselves….and trust the process allowing the how to show up.
I’m so excited to hear from you!
Light & Love,
Are you aware of what works and what doesn’t work?
I have quite a few people in my life that are not aware of what does not work when it comes to relationships in their life. These are people I know, not clients.
As a result they continue to attract the same energy in relationships because of their blind spots. Essentially they keep doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result.
I ask them if they’re open to feedback and they say yes, and, they chose to continue doing it their way.
Because they think they can do it themselves without help or accountability. It’s so painful to watch!
I have had therapists, coaches, men’s groups, personal growth groups, and human potential seminars in my life since 1989. There is NO WAY I would be where I am today without that third party perspective who has no emotional attachment to me!!!
As a result of seeking help I went back to school, changed careers, got into healthier relationships, came out of the closet with my sexuality, learned how to communicate effectively, and started my own successful business.
I didn’t do any of that by myself!
Being the lone ranger makes transformation impossible!
Because we can’t see our own blind spots, it’s impossible! That’s why they are called blind spots!
There’s no transformation in introspection or information. Don’t get me wrong they are useful, just not transformative.
Transformation happens with a teacher, a mentor, a coach, a group, etc. because they see what we can’t!
And, if you want something that you have been challenged attracting for years, like a sizzling long lasting Love relationship, you MUST uncover your blind spots because those are the unconscious and persistent energetic barriers that have you stuck!
And you can’t do it yourself or you would have already done it!
Is this making sense?
Are you sick and tired of getting the same relationship results in your life?
Do you want a breakthrough in communication, Love, sex, and partnership?
Are you ready to be held accountable for what you say you want and take 100% responsibility?
Share your answers and I will show you how!
I can help! That is what I do!
I can’t wait to hear from you……..
Light & Love,
Why are you letting fear stop you?
I feel fear pretty regularly.
There have been many times when I let fear stop me from my dreams whether in relationship, my career, or asking for what I want.
Just so you know fear is a part of being human. You can’t escape it! EVERYBODY has fears!
So as my Mom continues to deteriorate with Alzheimer’s, I fear my last parent dying, I fear not being able to take care of myself during this sad and undignified process, and I fear not being present in my coaching business and not completing what I need to complete to finish my FREE “Edgy Love Secrets Revealed Speakers Summit” that launches April 13th. Boy, it that a run on sentence or what? LOL!
Here’s what’s different today as compared to my past; FEAR WILL NOT STOP ME!
I am not my fears!
I choose to show up regardless of my circumstances!
When you learn to take action in spite of your fears your life will transform!
And so will your relationships and Love Life regardless of what lifestyle you resonate with!
What’s required is taking risk that is affirmed and validated by your Higher Self. This is another way of saying trust your intuition!
If you want to be unstoppable and attract spectacular, fulfilling, ravishing Love relationships, you must do something different in the face of fear!
People who trust themselves engage in unbridled self expression while standing in fear.
Are you letting fear stop you?
What are you scared of?
Is fear keeping you from having the relationship you’ve always wanted?
Let me know about your fears.
I can help and have experienced the crippling effects of fear first hand.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Light & Love,
If you want no regrets….The only time you have to extend Love is NOW!
The Illusion is there is always tomorrow……..
I have been largely unavailable the last 10 days as I have been taking care of my 88 yo. sick Mom with dementia, fear, anxiety, panic, depression, and psychosis. Needless to say I am emotionally spent, mentally spent, sleep deprived, and have gotten sick myself in the process.
With my Mom’s repetitive noises (dementia) over and over again I have not been able to concentrate and at times have felt like I am going to explode or go crazy!
And, I am not my thoughts and feelings. Thank you Creator!
So amid all the chaos and stress the last 10 days I chose to continue to extend Love to my Mom, because there is only NOW! She could be gone tomorrow……..
Tomorrow is an illusion…….And, she brought me into this world. Without her I would not be here!
So I am paying it backward and forward. Backward for all she did to raise me and Love me, and, forward because everybody wants, needs, and deserves Love. EVERYBODY!!!
In fact we all are LOVE!!!
All other circumstances are trivial compared to the difference we make when we extend Love!
Are you waiting until the “right” time to let someone know how much you Love them or mean to them?
How many times have you said maybe I’ll tell them tomorrow?
Do you want to have regrets for what was left unsaid after it’s too late?
What have you been withholding?
I Love and appreciate all of you!
Light & Love,
What is Valentine’s Day for you?
We all have different perceptions and interpretations about how our world is for us. Valentine’s Day is no exception.
I can remember back on Valentine’s Day in 1987. I was dating a woman at the time and did not want to continue the relationship (keep in mind this was before I had done any work on myself and I was a very immature 26 at the time).
Valentine’s Day meant nothing to me, so I decided to take my girlfriend at the time out to a nice restaurant and break up with her in the middle of dinner. My bad!!! I mean really dude, are you clueless? I won’t go into the ugly details. Suffice it to say that I had no idea at the time how to be compassionate and be in another person’s world.
I learned a valuable lesson in insensitivity that night! The world does not revolve around me!
Ok, my ears are burning!!! I got it and I get it! I was the Valentine’s Day Grinch in 1987!
Since then through all my personal growth and experiences, I have gotten feedback that I am a very sensitive, caring, and compassionate man. And I’ve had some great Valentine’s Days!
What are you doing Valentine’s Day?
If you are dating or going on a date, what does Valentine’s Day mean to you and them?
How can you make this the most extraordinary Valentine’s Day ever for yourself and others regardless of your personal view?
Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to be of service to others.
And now I am in service to you. I’d like to hear from you……about anything this email brought up with you in your world…….
It is important to find out what is important in your lovers or potential lovers world and practice generosity, compassion, and acceptance.
Every day is a day to give and love yourself and others and let go of your limited views.
Whether Valentine’s Day is a special day for you or not it is a day like everyday to continue to extend Love and communicate that authentically to all the precious people in your lives.
Spend some time hanging out and being present this Valentine’s Day with yourself practicing gratitude and take a stand for sharing your light with others in whatever you do or whomever you are with, just because you can.
You make all the difference in the world!
Shine on you Crazy Diamond!
Light and Love,
P.S. Happy Valentine’s Day! I Love you!
Do you think there are quick fixes or shortcuts in Love relationships?
This is the biggest trap for people wanting to be in relationship.
When I was younger I used to go out with anybody I was attracted to. And was always looking for shortcuts and quick fixes all of which kept me squandering away years of my life leaving me cynical, sad, depressed, and feeling like damaged goods!
It was not until I joined a relationship coaching group in 1999 that I transformed my mindset around relationships.
The truth is I had to do a lot of hard work on myself with self Love, self expression, communication, and AVOIDING all the quick fixes and shortcuts that other books and teachers were suggesting! When my clients finally get this (it takes about a year before this really sinks in) they are freed up to attract and create the relationship(s) of their dreams!
As a result, I have been in relationships the last 15 years that have each been amazing in their own way and spectacular growth experiences for me. And, I am still friends with all of them.
Are you looking for a shortcut or quick fix?
Are you willing to commit and immerse yourself into being coached for at least one year to really transform your patterns and Love life for good?
Or, do you want to continue to be in unfulfilling, passionless, settling, dead end relationships where you don’t get your needs met with incompatible partners?
Everything starts with a commitment to yourself, getting coached, and sticking with doing new and different things over and over again to produce DIFFERENT RESULTS!
If you quit, that’s a red flag that you want a quick fix or shortcut. And, like last week’s newsletter, it sends a message to the universe that you are DESPERATE!
Take action out of inspiration and Love will find its way to YOU!
Talk with you soon……
Light & Love,